Weekend Things

Apologies if this post is all over the place but my brain is mush because I have a newborn and WE HAVE A NEW PRESIDENT!!!!!! I don’t think I can properly relay the explosion of emotions I have felt since Saturday morning when we saw CNN had projected Joe Biden as the President-Elect. I think part of me had already mentally prepared to be disappointed in the outcome of the election — I was SO blindsided in 2016 and I did not want to feel that way again — so when things started going our way, I was shocked in the happiest of ways and seeing that announcement was the biggest feeling of relief and happiness and still a little bit of disbelief. I fully realized how stressful and heavy the past four years have felt and knowing it was over was EUPHORIC. This little baby won’t have to watch our president bully or name-call or lie or tweet insanity. We’ll have decency back in the White House. And dogs! We’ll have dogs in the White House again. I’m just so happy!

I have no idea what my posting schedule will be like in this unpredictable but wonderful newborn/maternity leave stage, but since it happened to be Sunday when I wrote this — I definitely thought Saturday was Friday and was bewildered when I realized I was wrong — I’ll go with a Weekend Things post for now. We loaded up Dempsey and walked to the coffee shop late Friday morning and… I hated it. There were so many people out and about and I felt very weird about it. Don’t worry, the baby didn’t go inside and we kept him away from everyone but still. Later that night, we supported the Denver Film Fest, by ordering up a movie called The Killing of Two Lovers. I really liked it! Joey was unsure about the ending but enjoyed the rest.

Saturday morning, Dempsey wasn’t interested in going back to bed after his 5 AM feeding, so Joey graciously got up with him and let me sleep in a bit longer. When I got up, I made us some blueberry pancakes, so I think we’re even :). They were really good and it’d been a few weeks since we’d made pancakes, so it felt like a luxury to eat them. And Andi was excited for the return of his Puppy Pancake.

Well I wish I could say we did anything productive on Saturday but mainly, we watched the news, scrolled celebration videos on Twitter and held the baby. We whipped out the Solly wrap and I’m not sure about it. I’m sure I’ll get better at it, but I can’t get it tight enough to feel like it’s actually supporting him and not just hanging off my body in a way that makes me feel like I have to lean backward to counterbalance him. Joey fared better and also sent me pictures of Dempsey’s sweet face from the other end of the couch.

My parents came over for dinner and we picked up food from Ginger Pig, a new restaurant just a few blocks from us. I thought it was all really good, but everyone else seemed to be more critical, which is the opposite of how it usually is! We all watched Kamala and Joe speak and can you believe we have a female Vice President??? I cannot tell you how much this means to me. My mom and I definitely teared up afterward :).

Sunday was semi-lazy too. For me, at least :). We ate breakfast and watched SNL because there was no way we were making it till 11:30 when it aired on Saturday and I thought the cold open was lame but Chapelle’s monologue was great and I loved that performance of “Times Like These” the Foo Fighters did. We have not done a lot of cooking in the past three weeks (thanks to everyone who has brought food!), but before Dempsey was born, Joey cleared out our garden and picked a TON of green cherry tomatoes. Did you know tomatoes will ripen on the counter?? They were finally all ready, so Joey made up some cream of tomato soup and I made two grilled cheeses and it felt like such a indulgence to have a fresh cooked lunch, especially one that tasted so good! The rest of the day included a Cowboys lose game, me writing this post, a fussy baby and a few episodes of Breaking Bad which we’d been talking about re-watching and finally pulled the trigger on. How was your weekend??

Two Weeks

This little one has been in our lives for two weeks and it simultaneously feels like he was just born yesterday and like so much has happened since he was born. Both are true, in a way. He has met all his grandparents and even all his great grandparents, plus my sister, Joey’s brother and this past weekend, he got to meet the whole King crew, including his best friend Henry! These moments are so sweet.

Josh asked us what’s been the hardest part of having a new baby and we guiltily answered “nothing?” I mean, waking up in the middle of the night to change or feed him isn’t always easy and eating with one hand maybe isn’t ideal but at the same time, it really is. Nothing about this little baby feel like an inconvenience to me. I am so happy to cater to his every need.

Breastfeeding has already been such a journey. The good part about starting out on a “three-part feeding system” (supplemental milk, breastfeeding, pumping) is that it can only get easier from there. We dropped the SNS at the beginning of last week. It was taking over an hour to feed him, plus I was pumping out a lot, so I knew he could just get what he needed from me. We were following up with a bottle just to make sure he was eating enough but he started spitting up EVERY TIME, which was alarming. We had a follow up appointment with the lactation consultant last Tuesday where they were able to weigh him, let me feed him, then weigh him again so we would know exactly how much he was getting from me (cool!) and yeah, we were way over feeding him with the bottle. We are finally finally just at breastfeeding with a nipple shield but I know we’ll wean ourselves off that too. It’s just a matter of time. Whew! So that’s that.

My parents returned our dog last weekend and he was pretty riled up for the first couple of days — he would not leave Joey alone! — but he seems pretty disinterested in Dempsey and I’m more than okay with that! We’ve let him give him some sniffs and he’s licked a foot or two, but that’s about as close as I’m comfortable with. My fear was that the baby would be crying in the middle of the night and the dog would go crazy barking. OR, that the dog would be barking and wake the baby up, but neither sounds seems to bother the other. A miracle!

Recovery-wise, I’ve been feeling great! Maybe I had it easy or maybe I was so over prepared for postpartum recovery that I had it built up to be worse in my head. Either way, I’ve honestly barely felt any pain — sitting was semi-uncomfortable for a few days — and I am so so thankful! I’ve been able to take some family walks with Dempsey in the stroller and Andi on his leash and it’s felt so good to walk around. I will mention that hormonally, I’m definitely still a bit all over the place. Most of the time, I feel so so happy but I’ve also balled over Chrissy Teigan’s personal essay, teared up watching The Way I See It (I miss Obama so much!) and felt really emotional about Joey returning to work (even though he’ll be working from home, it won’t be as blissful as the past 13 days of baby cuddles, Halloween movie watching, family visits and saying to each other “we made this!”).

In other news, Dempsey spent his first Halloween meeting friends, trick-or-treating at his Grandma Lori’s and hanging out with his Grandma and Grandpa Dorsey. Our friends Troy and Kenzie passed along some of their boys’ clothes, which included both a newborn pumpkin onesie and a newborn mummy onesie. We figured he’d dirty one of them at some point, but both costumes actually made it safely through the day. I ordered Joey and I some mummy face masks and a mummy bandana for Andi, so we could all match. Dempsey was obviously still the cutest 🙂

Everyone keeps asking if we’ve been reading and/or singing to him and uh… we’ve been watching scary movies and The Great British Bake Off with him. Is that the same?? Okay, so that’s one thing to get better about. Mostly we just hold him and watch him sleep and tell him and each other how much we love him. Maybe not the most productive way to spend time, but certainly the best way 🙂

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If you haven’t already, I hope you vote today. It’s so so important!