I’m sorry for the lack of posts lately. Actually, I kind of meant that apology to be to myself. Sorry, Self, for not writing very much lately. You deserve a creative outlet, but I’ve kind of had a one track mind lately and as exciting as it probably is for my handful of readers to hear wedding talk in every post, I kind of don’t want to be that person.
Aaaand that opening was kind of a waste of time because this post is all wedding talk. Ha! Specifically, three decisions I’ve decided to make that I feel put me in the minority but that I feel kind of strongly about. Ready?
#1 I’m not buying a wedding band
You guys, I LOVE my engagement ring. It is the most precious, beautiful and meaningful thing I’ve ever owned. Every time I look at it, I imagine Joey picking it out, going against my wish for a halo ring because he thought this one was much more me (and being totally right) and then I melt into a giant puddle of emotion. It is so perfect. And I kind of love the look of it on its own — plus it has some side detailing that makes it kind of difficult to match with a wedding band — so I’m leaving it on its own. Maybe one day, I’ll have a wedding band designed to go with, but for now I’m more than happy to have this ring be the one “I thee wed” with.
#2 I’m not changing my last name
It’s 2014 and the independent woman is alive and well, but I still feel hesitant and guilty when I tell people this. The decision has NOTHING to do with my commitment to Joey. It has more to do with the fact that I’ve had this last name for 25 years and I like it and it’s who I’ve been my whole life and I don’t want to part with it. Also, Joey truly doesn’t care if I take his last name or not. If he did feel strongly about it, I wouldn’t even hesitate to change it, but since he doesn’t and since I’ve heard the whole changing last names process is a huge ordeal, I think I’ll pass.
#3 I’m not addressing anyone as Mrs. Husband’s Name
Now that our invitations are out, can I just say how confusing that addressing is! If you Google it, and I did, there’s just so many different opinions and conflicting “rules” about how to address your guests. I liked coming across just single person addresses because those were pretty straight forward but all the others were a bit more complicated. In the end, my inner modern day feminist said “forget what Emily Post says, I’m not addressing anyone by their husband’s name!” It felt good.
What important decisions have you made lately?
We’re off to meet with our photographer about the day of schedule and what kinds of group shots we want to get, which must mean this thing is happening soon! Have a good weekend 🙂